Meditation, drawing, massage, there are simple and effective techniques to help the child express his emotions other than anger and shouting. Gilles Diederichs, relaxologist, gives us 5 activities that allow the child to tame his emotions but also to take advantage of them.
During the first years of his life, the child is confronted with a range of emotions without really knowing how to tame them. “Emotions are an unconscious phenomenon in response to a stimulus, explains Gilles Diederichs (*), relaxologist and sophrologist.” The body is mobilized to find the most appropriate response based on its beliefs (in front of a dog, some go into to be afraid while others will want to caress him), then express a reaction (joy, tears) to find the balance. “How to help the child to put words on his emotions and channel them? Gilles Diederichs publishes” The children’s notebook “(ed.First) which contains 50 activities to do with his child.It gives us 5 exercises that will help him draw on his resources to find inner calm.
Meditation to manage anger
What’s the point ? “The children are so stimulated that they are distraught by the silence,” says the relaxation specialist. “They can not express emotions of serenity, soothing.” With this meditation that we can practice all days, the child learns to calm down.
Exercise: Read this text: “Sit on the edge of a chair, with your hands resting on your knees, palms up to the sky, bring attention to all the tensions caused by your anger and feel your body, make the effort to breathe well when you go out and bring in your belly during all the meditation.
your attention is concentrated on your back.Inhale by clenching your fists gently and tell yourself that, in these fists, you drop the whole anger in your back, blow your back and open the dots, the anger in your back goes away from you, turn your attention to your face, inhale, clench your fists gently, and tell yourself that in these fists, you drop all the anger in your face, breathe, relax your face and open your fists, the anger in your face goes away from you, turn your attention to your belly, and inhale, clenching your fists gently.
Tell yourself that in these fists, you lay all anger contained in your belly. Breathe by relaxing your belly and opening your fists. The anger in your belly is leaving you. The storm has passed. Remain a few moments to breathe in peace, appreciate this moment when you act to go from anger to appeasement. “
Paper sheets as an instant stress reliever
What’s the point ? Our hands contain over 3000 nerve endings. That’s why the anti-stress balls work perfectly to let off steam. The child can also use the clay he models. This exercise can be offered as soon as the child feels anger rising. “We must not let the emotion get stuck,” explains Gilles Diederichs, “once we have appointed him, we can move on.”
Exercise. Arrange several bins separated by a few meters. Then offer him this exercise: “Inspire the air through the nose and count in your head up to 2, then keep the lungs full by counting 1. Then breath counting to 3 and remain empty lungs, 1. Then do it again 3 times The important thing is to count with your own tempo Take some sheets of newspaper in your hands and knead them slowly to make a ball Think of a situation that annoys you, anger The more you knead, the more you have the real feeling that all the energy of the stress, the nervousness, the idea of violence is transmitted in the paper.
You can verbalize all this.Once done, get closer of the first trash can, breathe as in the beginning and throws in the trash your paper ball.Sense that the situation has calmed.The other garbage will help, either to continue, because you feel still disturbed, or to treat of other delicate events that must also be evacuated. “
A series of yoga to regulate your energy
What’s the point ? This gentle gymnastics helps the child to center, relax, and breathe well. “Yoga is a form of inner education,” says the specialist. Regularly practiced, this can help him overcome an unpleasant event such as a dentist appointment.
Exercise: The sun salutation
Standing on the carpet, join your hands in front of you, breathe calmly. Inspire and raise your arms to heaven as you grow up. Go down again, exhaling to touch your feet or ankles. Bend your legs and put your hands on the ground. Inspire and retreat your feet. Look well in front of you, aligned body, head in the extension of the body. Lift the head and the bust. Expires and grows on the hands and toes by lifting the buttocks backwards to make the dog’s posture upside down. Inspire and bring your feet back into your hands. Hold your legs with your hands on the ground (you can bend your knees). Inspires, reaches out and raises the bust, keeping the legs straight. Raise your arms up.
Drawing to focus on oneself
What’s the point ? Dr. Roger Vittoz, in the early twentieth century has designed a method with simple exercises based on graphics, to find a balance needed for calm and concentration. “By drawing spirals, the emotion will come out more peaceful,” notes Gilles Diederichs.
Exercise: Do the activity together by following these instructions: “Draw a small circle in the center of your sheet, think of all those who are currently annoying you, but also to the difficult situations you are living in. With your pencil, do not sketch not, but prints typing or patting the pen tip inside the circle only.Mentally say everything you do not support.Follow yourself.Then, all over the left side of the drawing, makes small spirals that rise Like little tornadoes, think of happy moments you have already experienced, take pleasure in drawing them, and on the right side, make big strokes that start from the bottom of the drawing and end up at the top of the drawing. all that could happen to happy in life.Finally, use all the colors to make a happy drawing. “
A massage to meet
What’s the point ? The massages help the child to feel better in his body. It’s a way to soothe emotions and help them be in a better mood. At the level of the arch, there are many reflex zones that can be activated. This activity is interesting especially when the child is introverted and has trouble expressing what he feels.
Exercise: Sit down in front of your child. Each of you puts a little sesame oil or jojoba between the palms of your hands and rubs them against each other. You can massage at the same time or one after the other. Take your foot between your hands, then massage from the top of the shin to the toes, using the 2 inches. Go back and forth. Then leave from the bottom of the heel going towards the toes, progressing with supports and releases of 2 inches. Progress on the arch and return. Finally, twist each toe gently in one direction and then the other, stretching it gently. Then go to the other foot.